This week in an appointment with Julie, a primo nail technician, she quietly told me about being recruited by another business who had heard great things about her. She went on to tell me about the vast array of emotions she had experienced all the way from extreme flattery, infatuation, desire to please, cold hard thinking and feeling divided loyalties (even if for only a moment). It made for sleepless nights.
Being recruited is one of the most potent, heady experiences we can undergo this side of falling in love. When a hiring manager or recruiter “discovers” us in whatever way they do, you can guarantee they will have our undivided attention. This attention possesses many of the same characteristics of a love connection, which means your head is probably not going to work real well. Logic and rational decision making are likely to fly right out the door, leaving you to act like a love-sick puppy.
What does all of this mean? It means that as flattering as it is to have someone simply contact you “out of the blue” to recruit you, you have to understand your own natural reactions to what you are undergoing. If you don’t, you risk making a bad career decision. Notice, I said “risk”. I’m not suggesting that being recruited is a sign of bad jobs ahead; in fact I think recruiting talent is much better than wading through a deluge of resumes. I am saying that there may be good reasons to resist – right now.
Here are some thoughts to keep in mind:
You are going to feel compelled to want them. Keep in mind that this whole situation is very alluring. After all, they have good sense enough to want you. We like people who like us and are interested in us.
Remember what your personal and professional goals are. If you started this whole conversation without that clarity, get it – now. The only way you can wade through the headiness of being recruited is to have something to help ground you. You need a high point of reason to help you make a decision, should they make you an offer. Don’t make your goals after the process of interviews is in full swing or your brain will suddenly create goals where this job fits in perfectly. Clarity of thought for your goals means you can’t be falling breathlessly in love with a new job or employer while figuring this all out.
Saying “no” might be tough. Just like a break up, should you arrive at a decision to either say “no” or not pursue further talks, it will kind of tug on you. That tug isn’t a sign you are making a mistake. It’s simply ending a fairly emotionally charged situation.
There is always a next time. If they love you now, they will love you at another time. Yes, on another day they may not have an immediate opportunity, but if or when you go calling on them, they will know you as a good clear thinker. You can start the conversation; and when an opening does occur, you are now both in a good spot to fully commit. As long as you remain professional and up front in your interactions with your contacts, there are always future possibilities.
There is nothing better than being recruited or sought after. It feeds your ego and helps confirm your worth. Simply remain in touch with your goals and realize that will help you make the right decision when the time comes.
For more career tips and advice – FREE newsletter and eworkbook: http://CareerMakeoverToolKitShouldIstayorShouldIGo.com/ From Dorothy Tannahill-Moran – Your Career Change Agent from www.nextchapternewlife.com and www.mbahighway.com
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