Why Finding a Job and a Career is Like Kissing Frogs

Frog PrinceBy now most of us know the story of the princess who had to kiss a frog to find her prince.  The general belief these days, is that she probably had to kiss a few frogs before finding the one that magically turned into the man of her dreams.  I often use that analogy for finding a great career or job.  You have to do a lot of frog kissing before finding one that will truly resonate with you.

Yet, we are an impatient group and frequently forget that in order to find greatness, we have to be willing to seek and discover.  It’s not an overnight, quick-fix situation.  It also takes some effort, which is another thing that many of us have in very short supply.

Let’s look at patience and effort when it comes to finding a job and discovering a career:

Recently, I read a figure that the average job search for the unemployed was now 211 days, which is almost double what it used to be in pre-downturn days.  That’s 8 months of looking; and we can all tell stories of people we know or talk to who have been out of work for 2 years.  That means if you’re looking for a job, it’s going to be a marathon, not a sprint.  For most people job searching, that translates into a lot of time to fill.

For people who are working and looking for a job, it will take much longer, because they can’t spend as much time or conduct the level of actions necessary to yield quicker results.  There is a belief that it’s better to have a job when you’re looking for a job, but that also means it’s harder because of the time constraints.  You have to get serious about time management.

You have to achieve the right attitude and perspective.  You can choose to be impatient with the process which translates poorly when you present yourself; or you can choose to realize it is a process driven by time and number of activities.  You have to manage your attitude, your time and how many actions you take each day that will get you the job.  Yes, that means that MOST of the frogs you kiss will be wrong for you, but you have to keep kissing the frogs.  Oh well.

The same message is true for discovering the right career.  The best thing you can do is to check out a career that you reject.  That means you’re looking and that means you ARE kissing the frogs.  You might be shocked at how very few people will go in search of the right career.  I spoke to a person recently who had been trying to figure out a new career; and in a very disheartened statement, said they had looked into a specific career only to discover it had aspects to it that they wouldn’t want to do.  I congratulated them, which surprised them.  It was good to be on a mission of discovery.  You won’t find something unless you spend your time researching.  Now they know about that career, it wasn’t their dream career.  Another frog, please.

I can’t over emphasize the importance of putting in some effort on both of these endeavors.  Once again, in our instant gratification world, we kind of think like all we need to do is hit the enter button for a google-like answer.  It doesn’t work like that.  You have to work at it.  You have to be doing multiple things at the same time.  You have to talk to people, ask questions, do research, and find out about business and trends.  If you’re in job search, you can’t simply submit resumes to online job postings – you have to have multiple job search methods.  If you aren’t getting interviews – you have to change what you’re doing.  If you’re looking for a new career, you have to go in search and do many of those same things, BUT it has to be you and you have to put in the time and effort.

Lots of frogs, lots of kissing.  The payoff is huge for dream careers and dream jobs.

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Dorothy Tannahill-Moran is a Career Coach and expert on helping her clients achieve their goals. Her programs cover: Career growth and enhancement, Career Change, Retirement Alternatives and Job Search Strategy. Want to discover specific career change strategies that get results? Discover how by claiming your FREE gift, Career Makeover Toolkit at: http://CareerMakeoverToolKitShouldIstayorShouldIGo.com

Dorothy Tannahill-Moran is a certified life and career coach. She works with aspiring professionals who are looking for career growth, advancement and entry into the “C” suite. As well, she works with people to overcome the sometimes daunting task of changing careers. With over 21 years in management, Dorothy has coached, trained and guided other professionals who have gone on to impressive and fulfilling careers. Her personal philosophy about careers is: “It’s not JUST a job; it’s half your life – so love your career”. You can check out her resources, blog and services at Next Chapter New Life and MBA Highway.

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  1. I think your post pretty much sums it all up. I was on JSA( Job seekers allowance) for almost 18 months after I found my first job through a government scheme called the “Future jobs fund”. This position was hell as for 3months I literally had to find things to do in the company to get my experience. After 3 months I told myself i had enough , became sick of this and one day walked out of lunch and walked into an agency and luckliy found myself a job at Ernst & Youngs CBS team. I’ve been working here for roughly 8 mnths now and I have also applied 6 times to the company to move up but no luck( Its like you screaming inside but no one hears it). I even spoke to numerous agencies but was turned down due to my lack of experience and exposure in my field( Its been mentally exhausting so far If im being honest ) And yes I do agree that when you have a job and want to find another job you have manage your time sparingly because that 1 hr of lunch break goes really quick and its all even more worse when you have your manager sit right next to you only to find that you are applying for another job :(,. Its fustrating especially in this climate when companies are only cutting jobs like mad.

    But yeah I guess I will be kissing a couple of frogs before I land my dream job, the only thing that sucks is that Im running out of time and pateince.

    Good luck to those finding their first job and best of luck for those that are finding other jobs, its a cruel world out there!!


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