“Who Are You?” (And Other “Easy” Questions)

“Just be yourself.” I’m sure you’ve heard this advice. Have you ever really thought about what that statement means, and how difficult it may be for some to do that? Do you know who you are … really? Many have no idea who they are other than their job title or maybe family heritage. Those things have absolutely nothing to do with who you are.

If you’ve ever found yourself asking that “who am I” question…

…did you ever get your answer?

In today’s world, people identify so much with their job title and place of employment that they lose their sense of who they are… or maybe they never really knew. If you don’t know who you are, how are you supposed to get into a career that fits the real you? Try these tests…

Here’s a test. Can you describe yourself without mentioning your job title?

Here’s a tougher test. Can you describe yourself without mentioning skills? (A skill is something you’ve learned since the age of ten.)

And here’s an even tougher test. Can you describe yourself in terms of unique core characteristics? Can you do it well enough so if your best friend found this description on a piece of paper laying on the street (without your name on it), he or she would instantly know it’s you?

If you struggle with this, join the crowd. I did, too. It wasn’t until I went through an iterative questioning process over about eight years that I discovered how to describe the real me.

Here’s what I did, and you can try it, too. It’ll bring interesting results. Finish this statement…

“I am someone who _______________.”
Keep filling in that blank over and over again, each time giving a different answer. Keep going until you run out of things with which to complete that sentence. Come back and revisit it later. If you give it a little thought each time, you’ll go deeper and deeper into who you REALLY are. If you get to a point that describes you and only you, then you’ve got it. That’s the real you!!

I went through a similar process, and became so obsessed that I continued it for about eight years (believe it or not). Eventually, I got to the point where I could clearly see the real me at my core, which was a particular way of thinking and acting that totally defined me. I knew it was me because it was me everywhere. I could see it in everything I do. This is something we call a Given Talent. It’s how you think and act at the very core that is totally you, and it’s what you revert to when nobody’s watching. It’s your core essence.

A derivation of this technique is what ultimately evolved into The Clarifier , which is our cornerstone process at Stuck in a Rut . (Fortunately, we’ve figured out how to condense about eight years of asking this question over and over again into uncovering your Given Talent in about ninety minutes.)

Once you know yourself at the very core, then career happiness is actually fairly simple. First, become an expert at describing yourself in those terms. Then use that description as a basis of your resume, interviews and networking. Finally, use that core way of thinking (your Given Talent) as your compass in determining which career fits you. You’ll see following this simple methodology pays handsome rewards in a career you’ll love and excel in.

If you’re wondering how much you’re using your particular core way of thinking at work and at home today, take our free Reality Check by clicking HERE . It’s just 19 questions, fun and entertaining. And try completing the statement I am someone who ___________ until you get to your core. The REAL YOU is really there and waiting to be discovered.

As always, have some fun with just being YOU!!


Dave Dutton – Founder of Dave Dutton – Founder of stuckinarut.com – Answering the question for all ages, “What do I want to be when I grow up.”

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